Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Perfection: A memoir of Betrayal and Renewal by Julie Metz


Perfection: A memoir of Betrayal and Renewal

By Julie Metz

Published by: Voice

Release date: June 9th 2009

The Story: (Publisher's Weekly: Amazon) As recounted in this dark and affecting memoir, Metz's discovery of her husband's long trail of philandering well after he died reveals the state of willful ignorance and comfortable self-deception that reigned in her marriage. At their home in the northern suburbs of New York City on June 8, 2003, Henry, her husband of 13 years, suffered sudden cardiac arrest, leaving the author, a 44-year-old graphic artist, widowed and the sole caretaker of their six-year-old daughter, Liza. Initially unable to face the details surrounding his death, she left to her friends the task of cleaning out her dead husband's office, though those same well-meaning people hid from her the truth they gleaned from Henry's computer files and correspondence: he had been enjoying a two-year affair with another woman in their town, as well as numerous other dalliances. Metz, after the shock of Henry's death, found solace in shopping and flirting with a much younger artist, Tomas, who was also friendly with Henry; once Tomas intimated that Henry had another life, the author began digging, calling and e-mailing every woman she learned had had a relationship with her husband, obsessed with finding the truth. Metz's road to emotional honesty proves cautionary and trying.

My Review: This book started off too slow. It took entirely to long to get to the point, and once I found out the point I was horrified. I almost put the book down without finishing it and I wish that I had done so. When all is said and done this is just a mediocre read. This story is a memoir that the author Julie dedicated to her daughter and discusses her husband infidelity. I found the language to be crass, the sexual encounters counter productive and meaningless and it upset me that she dedicated her book about her husbands infidelity to their daughter. Why would she, as an adult and mother want to hurt her child by essentially telling them their father was horrible and unfaithful? The man is dead and can not defend himself. What type of image does this child have of him now. She was 6 when he died. When the book ended I was left with the feeling that Julie was no better then her dead husband and that they deserved each other.

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